Feedback model and parenting

Submitted by Kyle Skrinak
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Possible tangent but I couldn't resist noting how beneficial re-listening to this podcast has been for my duties as a... parent. Disciplining negative behavior does not encourage the child to think in positive ways (and to avoid repeating the negative behavior) they merely flinch at the prospect of more punishment -- doh obvious now that I've thought about it.! Thanks for the unexpected insight.
Submitted by Aleksander Dragnes on Wednesday November 19th, 2008 1:58 pm

The feedback model as a parenting tool has been discuessed here previously, the conclusion being that it was not really. There is however, important insights from it that are relevant to parenting and that is the focus on behaviour and its consequences, rather than character.

There was an article in Scientific American Mind magazine some time back on how children that received praise for what they did (helping other people, working hard on school assignments etc.) rather than for who they were (pretty, intelligent etc.) turned out more confident and resilient.

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Aleksander

Submitted by Chris Donnachie on Wednesday November 19th, 2008 2:15 pm

I think it mostly applies apart from the delivery. Anything that allows a parent to think through their child's perceived behaviour rather than immediately reacting (losing their temper) is a good thing.

As Aleksander indicated I believe better parenting arises when more time is focused on the behaviour and consequences.

10 x positive for 1 x adjusting.

Chris